What does it take to maintain a good relationship?Is it communication,expression,affection or any other thing?There has been and will be a lot of discussions regarding this most common yet most discussed topic in most literature around the world.Each and everyone will have there own opinion as they are entitled to be,but I am not sure if there is a perfect answer to this question and on the other side is there any perfect relations or any perfect relationships?I think this one is more easy to answer,the answer will be and should be a perfect "NO".At present I am into a relationship,and slowly but steadly I am learning the tricks and trades of maintaing a good relation.
First of all what I felt about our relationship on how it should be ,or if I elaborate what I thought is needed for a good relationship is good understanding.Yes I know ,its a simple thing ,but I must ask everyone out there how much importance are you giving the word understanding?Oh sorry it doesn't mean that I am that good in understanding things.Wonder how relationships breaks ,without proper understanding of things and yes I am trying my bit to understand the various emotions of my partner.Mind you if you are guy ,it will took the hell out of you to understand your girl.But its a good feeling when you are able to do it,and the best way to do it is to listen,listen completely.Yes yes I am a good listener ,I guess....
Another thing what I feel important is the need to talk.Now that doesn't mean going over the top or extraordinarly,it means sharing your hopes, fears, interests, pet-peeves, and all the other things that make you you. This is called self-disclosure and has to be critical for developing and maintaining feelings of trust and intimacy ; it’s no coincidence that these are all things people discuss endlessly in the breathless early stages of a romance.But the success will depend on the way in which this talk can be continued throughout a relationship.
Truth is a great way to create connection with your partner, and feeling connected is the ultimate feeling. For example, you might say "I feel safe when I am with you" or "Sometimes I worry that we’re too busy to create close moments together, but I really want to be close with you."Just share your true feelings and speak from your experience.From experience I must say,this will really work wonders. If you are concealing in your relationship, you will not feel connected, so consider making truth an ongoing priority in your life.
Communication as I said earlier is the foremost thing in a relationship.We can do this by being open and honest with who we are and what we feel. We could make request instead of demands, we could watch our tone, and listen carefully to our partner. We should share our hopes and dreams. We do this hopefully from a place of peace rather than a place of fear or blame.
Most of us want to fall in love, be in love and stay in love and magically live happily ever after... as the story goes. We merge placing our soul in the hands of the other expecting that the relationship will provide all our happiness. We even expect our partner to know exactly what, when and how to provide this. But fulfilling relationships do not happen automatically and they don't happen when the relationship is driven by a need rather than caring. If the relationship is going to grow we must give it our time and attention. We must each give to the other and not just be focused on what it is that we need. But often the relationship gets puts aside as the daily task of life take over.So find time folks for your dear ones,and I really hope myself as a partner will have enough time for my everloving dear one,to be her lover,a partner , a friend and most importantly her soul.Changing your relationship will take discipline, intention and courage. Be patient with yourself.If relationships are based on getting our needs met instead of by caring they are not likely to bring happiness.
So that's it friends this is my view ,based on my simple knowledge.Be happy with your loved ones,fight with him/her,tell them how much they mean to you,tell them you cannot live without them,tell them how much you care them,laugh with them ,cry with them ,make them feel that they are not alone,make them feel your own.And let the process begins right now itself ,because time waits for none.
NB:and finally this is for you my dear;"I LOVE YOU"
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